Wanting to find a life partner, spouse, or someone whose shoulder to lean your head upon are a nearly universal desire.“Men mess up and then we feel badly about it.” One of my best friends in graduate school used to say this.As we swapped stories, too often this was a conclusion we came down to.This media sensation is a confidant and guide to women world-wide.They blamed themselves—for choosing him, not ending it sooner, for texting him back when they should have remained silent, the list goes on.Oftentimes, this stage can extend itself longer than necessary — months longer than necessary — as bother parties are scared that bringing up the “Where are we, what are we? When it comes to an exclusive commitment, it should definitely be a mutual decision.Both parties should focus on appreciating each other and finding excitement in the journey ahead.
We’re not in that place that is ready to take on full blown relationships and commitment, where women come from the place of once they have had sex with a man, they bond with him.
It's a weird emotional playing field in which no one wants to overplay his or her hand and be left on the short side.
While both parties hold the power to heat up the budding romance with innuendos and flirtatious implications, the actions generally come with the afterthought notion of self-consciousness regarding whether or not something came about “too soon.” In this early stage, a single misstep could ruin everything.
In today's culture, it seems as if the ritual of officially asking a girl out has completely disappeared.
Couples nowadays seem to traverse that initial stage of “talking,” but without formally agreeing when and how a relationship becomes official.