"It feels like it wasn't that long ago." When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but "I tried to tell myself it wouldn't work because of the age difference.I fought those affections like crazy." But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: "I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, 'The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,' I will not move forward." The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray."Not everyone is down with the idea of dating outside of their age group, though.An NYC reader shared that although she doesn't really date yet, a lot of men who express interest in her are in their 30s, which just feels weird. He was closer to 40 than I was to 30, and I felt like he’d inevitably want marriage and children much sooner than I would.So I let our connection slip away, allowing my concern over our age difference to overshadow our passion.
Turns out you guys have a of strong opinions on the subject, and they're all share-worthy.One reader said that she dates guys who are older because she just can't deal with dudes her own age. He never judges me."The older-guys-are-more-mature thing came up a lot (even if science doesn't necessarily shore that up)."All they talk about is immature stuff like boobs, boobs, and boobs," she told us. It really does depend on the individual person, but aside from numerical age, other girls mentioned that life experience was a factor in who they decided to date, and that they might be more interested in someone older because he was already in college, had a cool job, or an awesome internship. After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?"After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.